Many people who know me would agree that I try to be helpful when I can. I am not the biggest fan of saying "no" to a request for assistance, even when providing that assistance could make my life more difficult. This prompted someone to suggest that I read a book called "I feel guilty when I say no" - I haven't read it yet, but I did get the Kindle version and I do plan to read it when I have time! Not being able to say no can land you in a tough spot in doctoral school, especially when saying yes to a project you don't want to do could be a commitment of several weeks or months. Believe me when I say that you don't want to spend your time working on projects that will not help you pass your comps, get published, or write your thesis.
This leads me to the next pointer in my tutorial on playing the PhD game:
4. You need to know when to look out for #1
As I mentioned above, you need to quickly learn that the faculty members that you are working with aren't always going to have your interests in mind when they "staff" you on assignments. You may end up working on projects that might be interesting and may even be fun but end up doing nothing but eat up your time and clear one item off of your faculty member's to do list.
I had a friend who accepted a posting on a project that involved doing exactly what she hated to do the most - make tables and format charts for a policy paper that had virtually nothing to do with her research interests and for a professor who was notorious for being difficult to work with.
She forgot about her option to say something that begins with "That sounds really interesting but..." To say that project was a disaster is a major understatement.
If saying no is as difficult for you as it sometimes is for me (and was for my friend), consider reading the book I mentioned (I feel guilty when I say no - http://amzn.to/AtK49n) and make sure you begin your program ready to look out for #1!
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